....when they don't seem to want to help themself?
I unexpectedly ran into a friend today. Said friend has moved out of state and pretty much dropped off the face of the the Earth. We kinda caught up at our public location. She isn't one to exaggerate - in fact, she downplays most things. I've known her for over ten years and she's a pretty private person - even when living with her, I didn't know some of past boyfriend situations until she opened up years later.
She mentioned that her marriage was on the brink of divorce. She has a 2yo daughter. She mentioned that it was physical and emotional. She was so nonchalant about the topic - she even said, "what can you do?" I'm so upset over this. I know it's not my place, but if she is being physically hurt, I want to yank her out of that situation!
She had been spending time in my home state back at her parents and she said that they said she to get a divorce or they don't want to hear about what is going on. I worry that since she doesn't have many real friends down there (she has mommy/kid playdates, but no close friends) and her family is out of the area, that things could be worse than what she says.
It seems that she's sticking it out because she has her daughter and only received an "MRS" degree while we were at school and doesn't have much work experience. My sister (single mom) was there too and the friend pointed out how much she admires my sister for being a single mom and making it work.
I'm sorry for the ramble, but I'm absolutely heartbroken that my friend is going through this. I want to help her and get her out of the situation, but right now it doesn't seem like she wants to leave - I think she is afraid of the unknown and being on her own.
I don't know how to help her. I know I will listen to her and try to offer advice based on what her opinion seems to be, but what else can I do without pushing her too far and losing her again?