My husband and I have married for 7 years and have a beautiful 1 year old. Over the years we have struggled and I have sought therapy. Honestly I am Christian and don't believe in divorce but don't know why I have stayed with him when he clearly doesn't respect me or honor our He has called me names and will yell and scream. We have worked on our communication thru therapy but he has gotten mad and refused to go. Recently he threatened to hit me when I tried to get away from him . He also drinks heavily and refuses to go to a consultation for ocd as recommended by our therapist. I feel like I really have no choice in the matter. I know he will mnot change unless he stands to lose his family. I think we definitely need to separate. That said he is probably clueless and I have no idea how to approach that I want to leave. Anytime I bring up any concerns he thinks I'm being a bitch or resentful.
I know he will not leave the house because that would be humiliating for him. I have never had an apartment on my own. Everything is in both our names financially but I am currently a sahm. I have no cclose friends or family in this area. What is my first step and how do I protect myself? Can he cut me off financial? I know not legally but he is very controlling.