How on Earth do you make your MIL respect you? My situation is all sorts of funky, but essentially I live in MIL's house with her cat, my BIL + wife, their 2 small dogs, and my husband. MIL lives with her boyfriend and we pay a more than decent rent each month, never late and never less than we owe, but for some reason i can FEEL that my MIL doesn't trust me or respect me, which has become more apparent as we are petitioning to get a dog of our own (since we live with 3 pets that belong to other people). She agreed we could get a dog, but she keeps adding addendums such as we have to wait until my husband is out of school for the summer and the house has to meet her expectations (even though there are 2 other ppl here and her expectations are above and beyond the condition to which she left us the house). And on top of that she has refused to have a decent conversation with me about it going so far as to verbally shut me down in front of the household, her boyfriend, and a non-family guest. None of those addendums by the way has she required of the other couple for their two dogs, despite the fact that their senior dog has left huge, dark piss stains all over the living room carpet. With the dog being the latest issue for us, I have in hindsight identified other moments of disrespect and bias towards me specifically in reference to how she wants her house kept and how I am the only member she feels is not keeping house well. This dog has come to represent her respect in so much that my husband and I have agreed to move out if after meeting her addendums she still does not approve.
All in all I guess I am seeking validation of my opinion and am open to suggestions about how to gain her respect, get the dog, and not feel like I'm being bullied by MIL; to prevent further damage to our relationship with her and prevent the hassle of moving.