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Painful time in personal life
I am going through terrible time in my personal life. I live and work in Australia for few years now. My parents tied me in wedlock to a girl of their choice last summer, ever since then my life has all but turmoil. Actually, I was in relationship before my marriage and did not want to marry another woman except her, however my family at a time of marriage created such an environment, where I had to take a call on this marriage, or else death in our family was nearly inevitable even my parents threatened me to commit suicide had I not approach for this marriage. I was abused, slapped and insulted by my family just to get marriage done by any means.
Before my marriage, my wife made lot of commitments to my family and they had excellent relationship, when I asked her before marriage that we have lot of disagreements in our family for this marriage, she said marriage has to take place due to preparation were done.
My wife came to know everything after my marriage about my relationship, she could not adjust with my parents and started fighting with me and complaining me about my family, she slowly started pushing my weak buttons with her anger and tough language. One day she told me I have to choose either my family or her and when I disclosed this to my family, they were shocked. My family suggested me to get separated from my wife but I denied as I did not want to spoil her life even though I am not happy in this marriage, but I did not know my family has dual face, On front they showed sympathy and regret for their decision on this marriage but on my back, they even were willing to beg my wife and send her with me here in Australia at any cost as they were more scared of legal matters, their pride and their reputation in society.
Now,after knowing this today me and my family have no contacts with each other. My wife doesn't have any contact with them either. She is in India right now and in process for Australia visa in upcoming months while she works there in her hometown. She still keeps complaining me about my family and asks me for financial help.
I had lot of struggle in career and in financial situation, had a huge debt with government here, Car accident, Robbery at home almost every thing happened to me in last 6 months, when I told everything to my wife to have some patience and give me some time - She was very angry and said I need to solve my own problems. Now, my wife/in laws want to get visa process done for her in short time OR they asked, I need to leave Australia and settle back home with her. She has backup of her family, while I have No one to stand by me in this situation.
At a time, She shows so much of anger which makes me even more frustrated and stressed makes me made at my parents they made my life hell and I can't do anything for that as I have no support from family, difficult financial condition and whatever I is left such as my job and career, that might be spoiled as well, if I try to counter her arguments, but then whom to approach in this condition.
I feel very lonely, depressed and anxiety over last few months, today I feel I lost everything in my life and whatever relations are there they are just illussion and fake. No friends, No family No relations, sometimes I feel to give up this life with so much frustration.
If possible please share your thoughts where should I go.