My daughter received a tablet at her fathers house this past year and she keeps it with her while at home (our house.) When she first got her tablet, it was synced through her fathers phone. Once she started bringing it home (she is with him on the weekends), I began to monitor her use on the tablet, as any parent would.
Upon browsing the history, I quickly realized that I could see all of her fathers recent searches.... These searches include an immense amount of porn, "hookup" sites, Craigslist ads seeking hook ups, etc. ranging from Cougars, to transsexuals... This obviously left me very uneasy. For one, because she could come across his inappropriate internet use. And for two, because he lives this creepy double life that no one knows about him. It's been 6 years since our teenage relationship came to an end, thank God. And from my experience, he is an extreme Narcissist.
So far, I have not addressed the issue with him for one reason. Blackmail. And not in a spiteful way, just in a protective way. I monitor her well, so in the meantime, I have just been viewing the history and snapping pictures of all that is on there. I do not believe my child is in any physical harm and am very glad that he surprisingly comes from a very good family whom she spends the majority of her weekends with him, with. I do not trust him and know he has definite mental health issues. I suspect along the lines of a borderline personality disorder. (He seeks therapy, but obviously is putting up a good front there as well.) So let me ask you, without causing distress unto my daughter...WHAT WOULD YOU DO?!?!!