Sex & Romance
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Is it possible that I'm incapable of orgasm?
I'm a 23-year-old, hetero, cis female and I think maybe I'm physically incapable of orgasming. I enjoy being touched and touching my boyfriend, and I enjoy sex, but whenever I seem to be building towards a "peak," it's like pleasure slips away from me before I can reach it and I'm left feeling very dissatisfied. It doesn't seem to matter what position we're in, what toys we use, if I'm with my boyfriend or just touching myself, it's always the same. I am currently on hormonal birth control, which I know can cause problems with arousal, but I had this same problem for six years before I started the pill, when I would try masturbating and would end the night feeling even more sexually frustrated that I was when I started. Is there just something wrong with me physically? Am I just never going to reach that peak everybody's always talking about?