Sorry for the length of this, but I need some honest opinions and some solid advice.
My SO and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. We bought a house and have a child together. We have a very strict schedule we need to stay on. We work opposite shifts, we have one vehicle, we have a darling 3 year old, and I went back to school this year. Also added in the mix is our two friends who have been living with us (their house fell through so we helped them out for a while) and they're about to move out.
Excited as we are about finally having our house to ourselves .... Some bad news came blowing on through.
My father in law might be going to jail. Extremely awful situation. This leaves my mother in law without someone to take care of her.
She has seizures so she can't drive, work, or live on her own.
My SO told her she could live with us. ....even though her mother has a little apartment on her property in which my mother in law could live in comfotably and be well taken care of.
I know it's awful of me to say, but I do not want her to live with us.
I do not want my son to grow up with her in the house. She uses her illness as a crutch, she spends her days smoking (pot) herself stupid, she does and says whatever she wants, and she takes advantage of my SOs good nature.
We had a horrible fight about it today. I told him that I think her moving in would be a big mistake and would put an awful starin on our relationship. We don't have the time to cater to her every whim and I don't want her drug use in my house. SO became extremely upset with me.
I am at a loss for what to do. Any suggestions and opinions would be great.