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I'm having 2 issues. About my brother and me. So my brother gets lower grades than me and my parents tell me to try to improve his grades which i dont know how, and i dont think he doesn't even care. He is a 3rd grader and am in 9th grade.Thats the first issue. And the second one is that i don't study for exams but i get good results. And i like to code on my pc, website designing and developing. But my parents say o should study but i can't ( don't know how to ) study. What shoul i do for both?

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  • edited January 2016
    BG7 said:
    I'm having 2 issues. About my brother and me. So my brother gets lower grades than me and my parents tell me to try to improve his grades which i dont know how, and i dont think he doesn't even care. He is a 3rd grader and am in 9th grade.Thats the first issue.

    Your parents need to be taking this into their own hands.

    Is he actually in danger of failing a class for the semester/trimester/marking period?

    Or is this a case of You get all As and he doesn't -- and they are after him because of that?

    If he is getting Bs and maybe a C here and there, I think that is fine. I wouldn't push my kiddoes to be strict academians if there is no chance they are not "wired" for that.

    If he is failing a class or two: their territory. They need to talk to him and the teachers involved and do wht they should do to make sure he doesn't fail: get him a tutor, see about getting extra credit projects for him from a teacher, check his homework [maybe he lies and says "we have no homework" or "I did my homework in school" and none of this is true; I had a brother who did that and that is a whole other story] -- they need to do whatever needs to be done and both of them have to get involved.

    This is their territory and not yours. They need to do everything thtey can to make sure he doesn't fail for the semester/marking period or the year...if this is a case of him possibly failing for the year, gee -- this is nearly February and he will be hard pressed to more or less make up for lost time.

    Good luck with this one. Some parents can be way too stubborn.

    And the second one is that i don't study for exams but i get good results. And i like to code on my pc, website designing and developing. But my parents say o should study but i can't ( don't know how to ) study. What shoul i do for both?

    I see no problem here. You might have a photographic memory or just naturally pick up what the subject is.


    What will benefit you: for any subject in school, you can supplement it with research of your own. The web and libraries are full of "backstory" information.,

    short+sassy
  • Studying is reading through information.   And rereading the areas you find confusing or don't understand multiple times.  Sometimes studying has aspects of memorization.  Flash cards are great for that.  For math, completing math problems a number of times until you have the process down pat.

    I have two techniques I have found really "set in" information.  Taking notes while I read.  Writing down information I am learning...not word for word, but key aspects...really helps cement that information in.  I've also found teaching someone else what I have learned helps me see the knowledge in a big picture.  I can take jumbled facts and see how they all work together.  But you don't even necessarily have to involve another person.  Just pretend you are teaching a class and explain the lesson out loud.

    I'm assuming your parents are saying you should study because, although you are doing well, you're not always getting A's?  I can relate to that.  I also had an easy time in school because I was gifted with a good memory.  I didn't have to study very much because I could get As and Bs without trying.  But, if I'd tried, I would have had all (or almost all) A's.

    It also made me lazy for later in life.  When I went to college, I did have to work harder and study more to get good grades.  It was a rude adjustment!  I still managed to graduate with a 3.3, but it could have been much better.  Even into adulthood, I have always struggled with procrastination and I feel like a good portion of that stems from the bad habits I developed in childhood. 

  • edited January 2016
    Reading is everything --- this is what my third grade (and later on fifth grade) teacher always said --- later on she was a reading specialist.

    Kids should read -- and read anything --- science books, Harry Potter, the Superfudge series, Diary of a Wimp, books about sports stars, famous people, mysterious far away places to visit  --- anything they can get their hands on.

    Does your brother's school have book fairs? I remember those -- they set the fair up in the corridor and on the tables, thousands of books, of all kinds.:) It was a bonanza for us kids.

    What are your brother's interests?

    Now is the time to nurture what he likes to do the most. Will probably lead to what he wants to do in life -- and everybody is good at one thing. I have never seen it fail --- parents need to encourage whatever it is.

    I remember my 2 big interests at age 8 wee bugs and rocks.  No parent back then knew how to encourage it --- I see entomology careers and geology careers in the making.  Both are very important --- you can't build a freeway/highway without knowing the terrain.  You can't get sandhogs in there to start the tunnel until you find out what kind of rock there is under the surface. Bees, black ants and red ants are vanishing: why? You need geologists an entomologists for both of these issues and more. .
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