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Married to someone with a mental illness
I've been married to my husband for 3 years and we have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. My husband has depression and anxiety. He recently lost his job (with a good severance package) and has another job already lined up that starts in a month. In the meantime, the days that I am working (3 days per week 7a-7p) he is watching our daughter. It has only been 2 days and he has practically had a meltdown. After talking to him he says he cannot handle a toddler by himself and he didn't deny having suicidal ideation a when I asked him about it. He says he doesn't think He would harm himself but he is
Not sure. He did say he would never hurt our daughter. I never realized his anxiety and depression was this bad. He is currently on meds and his therapist has been trying to find him the right one.
More of a little backround story...we have been in counseling for around 6 months. We recently stopped due to our counselor being sick for some time. We are also moving to a new state 4 hours away to be closer to family. We currently have no family nearby. We have to sell our home and may have to live with my parents until our home is sold since we cannot afford both rent and a mortgage. So there are many stressors occurring.
I don't know what to do. He can be emotionally abusive to me (which is why we sought Counseling to begin with) and it's so hard to see him get upset with our daughter bc he cannot handle her. He has NEVER been physically abusive with myself or my daughter.
Part of me thinks we should just get through this, rent a place in the new state and put our daughter in daycare. (We couldn't put her in daycare before because of the hours we worked and he refuses to pay for a sitter or nanny since he's been unemployed). I'm hoping that after were settled, we can have a
More normal life with normal work hours and be able to take date nights and have my parents watch our daughter. Maybe things would get better?
The other part of me is done. We have been having marital issues and the topic of divorce has come up. I'm
Not happy and why would I stay in a
Marriage I'm not happy with? Why let my daughter see me go through emotional abuse?
Or it could get better. Now that I
Know how serious his illness is. I just don't know. I'm just looking for advice from anyone in a similar situation. Thanks in advance.