First, let me say that I appreciate the gesture of giving. My MIL and FIL consistently gift us furniture and art. The thing is, we dont ask for or need any of it.
This bothers me for a least three reasons that I can identify:
1. I have spent A LOT of time cultivating nice furniture and art off of craigslist, thrift stores, and travel (with input from my husband, if he feels so inclined). At this point we have everything we need. I want to use the stuff I picked out with my partner without feeling guilty for it. They think I am picky, when honestly this process brings me joy.
2. Every time they give us a piece of art or furniture, it feels like they are trying to replace what they feel is an inferior version of that item. This recently happened with a bookcase.
3. I HATE clutter. Seriously. They know this about me. Each piece feels like an unnecessary albatross that I'll have to lug around for the rest of my life.
I am at my wits end with this and I don't know how to deal with it without hurting their feelings. I'm used to being able to speak openly with my family, but my husband's family is not like that. Obviously, I'm reacting from an emotional place. This post makes me seem like a monster and I'm actually a lovely person. I need help. Any advice aside from the just deal with it kind?