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Sex drive change with lifestyle..

I've recently changed my diet. I eat mostly fruits, veggies with some carbs and protein for weight loss. I also drink water like it is going out of style and I exercise. I have stopped eating so much sugar and an excessive amount of carbs.

I feel better than I have in years and my skin glows from all the nutrition. The only issue is that my sex drive has gone way down. 
My husband and I have always made love 3 or 4 times a week. We have always had a passionate sex life; he is the best lover I've ever had. 
There are many things that I have only tried with my husband because he makes me feel so comfortable and sexy. 

I just haven't wanted to have sex as often since I changed my lifestyle. I still have sex with my husband to make him happy. He has told me that he doesn't want me to have sex if I don't want to but I don't agree with that. He does plenty of things for me that he doesn't want to out of love and I feel the same way about sex. I'm his wife and I feel like I should fulfil my husband's sexual needs unless it is impossible for me to do so. Besides, once we get into it I always have a great time and multiple orgasms. 

Last night, I told my husband that I didn't want to have sex and he said it was fine. He kissed me and said that there was no pressure. 
I don't know if I will feel sexual this evening but I will probably have sex anyway. I don't want to get into the habit of refusing to be intimate with my husband.

How can I get my sex drive back? 


Re: Sex drive change with lifestyle..

  • This seems odd. It may be some sort of a sex rut you are in.

    Go to a doc and get it checked out. I don't know if you've developed a problem coincidentally right about the time you cleaned up your diet. I've never heard of a lack of libido as a "bonus" for cleaning up one's diet and eating better.
    NoneForUs
  • This seems odd. It may be some sort of a sex rut you are in.

    Go to a doc and get it checked out. I don't know if you've developed a problem coincidentally right about the time you cleaned up your diet. I've never heard of a lack of libido as a "bonus" for cleaning up one's diet and eating better.
    Yeah, me neither. It is very weird. I appreciate your viewpoint. 
  • IF it lasts more than 4 months, I'd say see a doc. Passion waxes and wanes. Maybe you are starting to be one of those people who can go without sex for a while. Nothing wrong with that.
  • I think it's hard for me to get used to the idea of having a low sex drive. 

    My drive was low when I first started having sex and then it went up when I was 23.

    Ten years later, I don't feel the craving for sex that I had before. 
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