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ive never been sexy mor have i ever initiated sex

My husband and I have been together 27 years. I've never been sexy, I'm clumsy and goofy. I dont know how to turn him on. I also have low libido from meds. However I want to make him happy in bed. What do I do?

Re: ive never been sexy mor have i ever initiated sex

  • My husband and I have been together 27 years. I've never been sexy, I'm clumsy and goofy. I dont know how to turn him on. I also have low libido from meds. However I want to make him happy in bed. What do I do?
    You are together 27 years. You and he have to be doing something right!:)

    What I suggest:

    Speak to your doc about perhaps prescribing something that doesn't muddle up your libido.

    See your doc for a full checkup. I am guessing you are in your 50s and you know that hormonal changes make it a bit uncomfortable for sex. There are vaginal suppositories and other medications to make things a bit easier for you.

    A heart to heart talk with your H will help immensely.:) You and he can also do things like take a nice hot bubble bath together or shower up together.  What's sexier than a bath or shower for 2?:)

    Bring in a bottle of wine and some munchies, some candlelight a d some music before you 2 get into the tub....let nature take its course after that.

    What about pretty nighties? Lots of stores still sell them --- I'm not talking about the stuff a Victoria's Secret sells -- these would be peignoir sets and babydolls.

    There's lots of ways to be intimate outside of the bedroom. Compliment him when he looks great or smells great; there are always kisses goodbye in the morning and when he or you arrive home at evening time., Manners and enthusiasm for your spouse go a long long way. I'm sure you like it too when he enthusiastically tells you you've cooked a fantastic meal or that you look wonderful tonight.:)

    A makeover would be great, too --- update your hairstyle or haircolor; maybe get something a bit youthful and new.  Makeovers are great for self confidence.:)
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