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I have 24 years I live and work in the city, while my parents and younger brother live in the countryside. This summer when I was home I made a deal with my parents that brother come to me and enroll the high school. so in September he started high school. initially did well, bought him everything he needs. I started paying him math lessons because he said he need it. Sometimes he would come home by announcing that he that day got B or C, but I was pleased with that. and everything was great until last week. his teacher asked me to come after work, to school, because I had several times urged by my brother and it became obvious that I have not received a single call. and there I was met with bad grades (all D and F) and information that he didn't come regularly to school for a few weeks now, the last two days didn't come at all. I called the man who gives classes of math, and he informed me that brother didn't come for a month. I was livid. the next day I got out of the house like going to work,and then sat in the car and waited to see what he's doing and where he's going. but my brother did not come out of the building. hour and a half later I was at the door of my apartment. he and two boys (which I had seen entered the building) were sitting in his room playing games, and smoking. beer was laying behind them.
I was so angry that I didn't know what to do. I finally picked up the phone and told him to pack up and that I would call my dad to come get him. brother started to cry and beg me not to do it, that he wouldn't do something like that again and that I should just punish him, even spank him but not to say anything to our father. and I know why .I know what are my father's punishment like, I felt it on my skin. he is not cruel, only very strict. if comes to bad grades only, wouldn't be a problem, but an escape from school, stealing money and smoking are almost certain that he will get the belt,maybe even few times. I saw how he is afraid of dad expecially when he almost fallen on his knees began to beg me. I do not know what to do? I know that this can't go unpunished, but I haven't the heart to leave it to my dad, especially as I can't be with brother when he will faced dad, and I know how dad can be sometimes...
should I punish him on my own, and how to do that?