Just like some of the other posts I've read so far, my husband and i's sex life has lost it's spark. It's mostly me... he still wants it like a typical man does. But I have no desire what so ever. I could go weeks, and probably even months with out and be perfectly content. I don't want to be this way though. It's not fair to him. And it's not normal for a married couple. I'm just not sure how to fix it.. how do i get my sexual desire back? In my mind I want it, but my body tells me no. I believe it started when my self confidence went out the door. It's hard to feel sexy when you've gained a lot of weight since the "dating days". Are there any other women who have been in my shoes? Or who have any tips to spice up the sex life and bring back my desire for it? No negativity please.. it's hard for me as it is to talk about this, let alone ask for help. Thanks!