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Husband mad about time spent at home
I've never posted here but want outside opinions on what's going on in our relationship and how best to handle.
My husband is a hard working guy who makes a decent amount of $ and we get by enough to go out to dinner/buy nice things every once in a while.
But I realized that we aren't making enough to support a family someday. I have no doubt due to his ambition that he'll make more one day, but I can't just wait for that to happen. I also have always wanted to do more than a Bachelor's degree, so this year I started taking classes towards my Master's (in addition to working full time where I have an hour long commute).
It was tough on our relationship last semester because I didn't realize how much time itd take and I couldn't do much household chores. If I did, it would sacrifice either time with family and friends and/or my grades. He would get upset that I neglected the house. So this time, we got someone to clean every other week and that aspect is much better.
But he really gets mad at me for not being around. For example, I got my hair done tonight and he was upset. I got home around 9pm planning to put something in the crock pot for a pot luck dinner at work tomorrow ...planning to use ingredients we already had since clearly I was low on time. I called him to make sure we had the ingredients and he told me we had them and it turned out he did not check, so I was frustrsted. He told me I should not have gotten my hair done if I had the potluck. I did not know about the potluck when I made the hair appt 3 weeks ago. I could've got ready for the potluck over the weekend but chose to do our laundry instead.
I just want him to be appreciative of what I'm doing. After all, the big reason I'm doing this is to make us have a better future. He works 5 minutes from home and he refused to live closer to the city where I work.
I do feel bad that I can't do normal wife things like cook him dinner. But I feel like what I'm doing is the best thing for us long term.
What can I do to make this work?