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No "L word" after 6 months
I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 6 months. He has yet to say "I love you"...and it really concerns me. So far, in the relationship, things have progressed quite slowly. We are 29 and 34 and have both been divorced for a few years, and we each have a child from the previous relationships. Eventually, after months of dating, we met each other's kids, they met each other, and we met families. We've mentioned the future..possible marriage, that we both want more kids, etc. Everything is great, it really is. We live about an hour away from each other though, and because of work schedules usually see each other on weekends and try to see each other during the week at least once. But its hard to see each other more than that. We talk or text regularly. He does little things that show he loves me. He mentioned once a couple of months ago that "there is something he wants to say to me, but he's scared" because "its been a long time"...and that "Its coming." I assume he meant the L word...I don't know what else it could be. But recently when I mentioned it, he said he just isn't ready yet. I have said it once, and he replied with "please don't be mad if I don't say it back right away." So I haven't said it again, because I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable...and its been really hard to not say it. I don't really want to think too much into the fact that he hasn't said it yet, because he shows it. But my friends always put ideas in my head, and say that its weird and we've been dating long enough. Is this unusual? I mean, we're both older and have been thru a lot in past relationships, so I understand his apprehensiveness. I just need some unbiased advice. How long do I wait before I really reflect on the relationship?