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Sexless Marriage, what do I do?!?!
While we were dating, my now husband and I did not have a very successful sex life. I am a very sexual person and he is NOT! He is a good man and he means well. We have been married for 5 months now and we are running into a lot of issues. I am finding out personality traits about him that were not there while we dated. He has an anger problem that is pretty ridiculous however, what this post is about is our lack of intimacy. Not just sex, we have ABSOLUTELY NO intimacy!! He is a very attractive man and any time I would try to be flirty or compliment him he would make an inappropriate joke about farts or something. We almost never have sex and when we do no one climaxes, NO ONE! Most times he can't stay erect. He has been to the doctor and has been told he doesn't have ED but we are still having this issue!
I don't feel sexy, I don't feel desired, and I feel extremely sex deprived. Meanwhile, he seems like he couldn't care less that we don't have sex! I know that he isn't having an affair but his lack of interest is very depressing. I am the type of woman who wants to please my man but he does not think pleasing me is a priority. Don't get me wrong, sex isn't everything but it is important. I have always been a very secure person but since being with him I doubt myself and I find myself being self conscious and insecure. He rarely compliments me and has made comments about my weight and my diet (me weight has not changed since I met him). I don't know what to do!! I find myself having sexual thoughts about other men (I KNOW I would never act upon these thoughts) and it makes me feel awful, I feel so guilty. I have been so sex deprived since I met him that I sadly find myself thinking "I bet he'd have sex with me" about random men!!! I am not a promiscuous person by any means. I love being dedicated to one person and one person only however, I am also EXTREMELY sexual!
I talked myself out of my doubts because who wants to be the (pardon my language) bitch who ditches a GOOD man because of sex, but here I am lost, stressed, sad, and legally bound!