When my boyfriend (39) and I(30) first moved in together we were having sex every 2nd - 3rd night. We are now almost at our 1st year "dating" anniversary and living together for 9 months and if I'm lucky I'll get sex once a week now... I know, once a week seems plenty to most woman (I think I've reached my sexual peak now), but its gotten to the point that I have to wait for him to initiate sex (when he does it will be wild and so worth the wait) otherwise if I try initiating it then he doesn't get hard enough to have penetration sex, I end up finishing him off with a HJ or BJ and I am left feeling a little frustrated and then he won't touch me for another week; or it seems as if he rushes through it just to get it over with. I don't understand whats going on. I have tried talking to him and he says he can't explain why, maybe he's just a bit tired. He says he still loves me and is attracted to me... I'm so confused and its starting to affect my self esteem. Any suggestions? or anyone else going through this?