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Newlywed Sex Blues/Need Ideas
Hi everybody! I'm going to try and make this as quick and painless as possible.
My hubby and I have been married nearly a whopping 3 whole months. We were one of those couples that for religious reasons (oh, who am I kidding, we just didn't want to get knocked up) abstained from having sex until we were married. Didn't dabble in it. Neither one of us had a previous relationships (we were one of those first date/first kiss/first love kind of things), and so we have relatively no sexual experience.
However, our sex life is a little slow for a myriad of reasons. He works nights, I work days. Our off days are almost never the same. We won't have our honeymoon until our one year anniversary, so any practice from that is out of the question. We haven't gotten a "quickie" mastered yet, and I'm very sluggish if tired, so he doesn't want to initiate anything. He's the same way. So, basically sex occurs when we are both off (or have a hour or two of over lap time).
I can say though, that even though I'm not sure what good or even great sex is like, my hubby has gotten pretty good. He always puts me first in the bedroom, and makes it his mission to make sure I climax at least twice before he does. He is not the problem. What the real issue is, is that even though he has a very incredible sex drive, we both admit that mine passes his. He does what he can, but like I said, our time is limited.
I do not enjoy masturbation by myself. I don't really get turned on at all, and it just becomes very boring very quickly. I'm not comfortable using any toys (yet), and am now at a loss. Any help or ideas?