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*Help* PCSing with Stepkids (Father is active duty)

Sorry to barge in here without knowing anyone but I really need some help.

Here is my situation: I have two children with my ex-husband who is currently active duty Navy. He claims both children as dependents and has them listed on his page 2. I am now married to an active duty Marine ( I know, I know.... I am medically retired Navy so I'm not one of those benefit chasers... I can't help that I like a man in uniform ). Well my Husband just received orders to Hawaii but the USMC will not pay for the children to go because they are not his dependents. They told us they only way that the kids could go to Hawaii is if their Father takes them off of his Page 2/DEERS/ETC. From what I understand you can't remove eligible dependents, even if he wanted to cooperate with us. He doesn't mind them going to Hawaii, he just doesn't want his BAH to change. I have primary custody of both kids. According to the JFTR because I have primary physical custody we (their stepdad and I) can put them on his BIR, but I don't know if that is the case when they are already claimed by another active duty member.

Here is my question: Can the kids be listed on both BIR and page 2? one for dependent status and the other for.... informational purposes as step children??

Is there any one out there who has been through this or can point me in the right direction? No one has been able to give me a straight answer so I'm hoping I can find someone who has been through it to offer some advice.

Thank you in advance

Jules

Re: *Help* PCSing with Stepkids (Father is active duty)

  • Normally I'd try to find the answer, but I'm just a tag chaser, so what would I know?

    No one would judge you for being married to a Marine after being married to a Sailor. I was married to a Marine and now I'm married to another one. The first one was the wrong person for me, this one is not. My being in the military has nothing to do with anything. Don't judge and don't use terms like that here please. 

    You need a lawyer. Go to legal assistance and get their take on it. This is too complicated an issue for anyone to give advice on. Anyone who would give advice is outside their lane. 
    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
  • I just wanted to barge in here without knowing you and say way to perpetuate a stereotype.  When you are the one bringing it up like it's a real thing (ie. when you imply these people exist but you are not one) it is just as bad as someone accusing you of being one.  Remember that.  That's all I've got.
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