I imagine each of us has a similar strain when it comes to holiday planning, but I wanted to get some unbiased opinions on the matter. My husband's parents live 7 hours away and his sister 4 hours away. My family lives 15 minutes away.
For the past three years we have always driven down to his parent's house for Thanksgiving and have done Christmas here, but it's not a perfect solution. 1) I never get to have Thanksgiving with my family and 2)He never gets to have Christmas with his family.Regardless, it is extremely difficult to travel every Thanksgiving and to not really get to do our own traditions on Thanksgiving and Christmas as a couple. On Christmas we either stay the night at my parents or we are forced to get up early and go over to my parents the morning of....
What I would REALLY like is if
1) His sister hosted Thanksgiving-- cutting our travel in half
2) My family would be open to letting us host Christmas Eve dinner so that we can do something at our house.
All of this to ask:
1) How did you eventually break out and start doing what you wanted on the holidays? If you didn't, why not?
2) What is really considered fair when it comes to splitting holidays and sacrificing time?
I appreciate all kind responses.