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XP: Working Opposite shifts
I don't normally post on here, but I was hoping I could do a little bit of venting and maybe get some suggestions on how those of you with spouses who work opposite shifts make it work. This is long so there are cliff notes at the bottom if anyone is interested.
DH works for a large company and he works the night/swing shift from 4pm-1:30am Monday-Friday, so he leaves for work at about 3pm and gets home around 2:30 in the morning. Originally we moved halfway across the country for this new job and he worked days, but then they went through a few rounds of layoffs and moved people around to different departments/shifts so as to keep as many people as possible. He's been working nights for almost 2 years now (it was supposed to be just a temporary thing), and I feel like I'm going crazy. He's put his name on the list to be transferred back to day shift because technically he has seniority over some people on that shift so he is supposed to be given priority, but each time he's asked about it they say if he does get put back on days it probably won't be until sometime next summer. His schedule makes it hard to do much of anything together...he goes to bed around 6am and wakes up around 1pm-2pm, at which point I make breakfast (well lunch for me) and we share a meal together. That's about the only time DH and I see each other any more. I've given up trying to get him to do anything on the weekends because he sleeps in later and then claims he had a hard week at work and he just wants to stay home, while I've been in the house all week and want nothing more than to get out and do something. So on the weekends I usually go shopping (and spend money I probably shouldn't, lol) or just drive down to the park to get myself out of the house.
Meanwhile I work from home for a company that requires me to work 8-5 M-F (although in reality I'm on call/working until about 7pm because that is when their office closes since they're in a different time zone). Lately I've been finding myself getting really lonely and bored. It's hard to make friends working from home, and the only people I really know around here are wives of DH's coworkers (who really only seem to want to hang out when our husband's are around). I'm just so sick of being home alone all the time--it's gotten to the point that I've started looking for possible job opportunities so that at least I'd be in an office with other people but the only things I've found pay about half of what I'm making by working from home and would be at least an hour commute. I've tried going to the gym to meet people or trying to meet some of the people that live in our neighborhood but no luck (I had befriended a neighbor at the apartment complex we lived at when we first moved here, but she has since moved to another state).
I guess I'm just wondering what those of you who work opposite shifts do to spend time with each other? Any tips for not getting lonely while you're eating dinner alone or cleaning up from dinner by yourself again for the millionth time or how to make friends after you've moved to a new place? I seriously need some human interaction--I'm afraid I'm becoming a crazy cat lady by staying at home and talking to my pets all day!
Thanks for any tips and for letting me vent!
Cliff notes: DH works nights, and I work at home during the daytime. We rarely see each other because of our schedules, and since I work from home I've been having a hard time meeting new people around here so I usually just end up staying at home alone. Just wondering if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how to make this whole opposite shift thing work out.