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Is having a pet good or bad for a marriage?
So I know this forum is about real babies, but I just had a question about fur babies (real babies are so far out of the question that I don't even want to talk about them).
FI and I are engaged and getting married in July. After my best friend's mother passed away, FI and I offered to take up her dog "Odie" because if no one did, he would go to a shelter, which is the last thing my friend's late mother would have wanted. Odie is a sweet little dog (like 3 lbs little) and he is very well behaved. Right now he is staying with my sister until FI and I get our own place, because neither of us can have dogs where we live. When we move in together, he will be moving in with us!! We're totally excited about him.
Here's the predicament. . .
We are going to have a really tight budget for our first year of marriage. Now, Odie is small and does not eat much, so the cost of food is really insignificant. The pet rent is only $30 a month where we're staying, which is not a problem for us. He's young and healthy and has all of his shots, so we wont need to take him into the vet other than if he gets sick or gets hurt, which we have money saved up for. What other added expenses are there? Everyone keeps telling me that dogs are horribly expensive, and given FI and I's budget, it was not wise of us to take up Odie. That's really concerning.
Another thing is, obviously dogs are a big responsibility. Is that going to get in the way of our new marriage? I guess what I'm trying to ask is, do pets get in the way of couples getting used to the married life or do they strengthen the experience?
We've never had a dog before so we have no idea lol. The main reason I'm so concerned is because we absolutely CAN NOT get rid of him, no matter what burden he brings us, because that would be a horrible thing to do to my friend. So what do you guys think?