I've been divorced for 3.5 years. I started dating this man about 7 months ago. He's wonderful! Thoughtful, smart, funny, caring, generous.... Like any relationship, we've had our ups and downs, and it hasn't always been easy, but we are really good at communicating, which I feel is important and I appreciate. But for the past few weeks, it's been particularly rocky. The department that he works in is undergoing a big reorganization, he got a promotion (well deserved and I'm very proud of him and his hard work), but the work required for this transition has been enormous. He's very stressed out, which I totally understand. When he's feeling this stressed out, he says he needs more time to himself to regain his inner balance, which I also understand. But for the past few weeks, we've hardly seen each other, we're barely talking, and when we do, it's like superficial texts. We have had a few heavy discussions about this. It's particularly hard for me because I'm not feeling like I'm in a loving relationship, I'm feeling sad and lonely. And while I'm trying to be really supportive of him and the situation he's in, the fact remains that I'm not happy that he doesn't have time for me, or us, anymore. He tells me, and I believe him, that he still loves me, and this doesn't change how he feels about me, but he's stressed and needs time and space. I think it's particularly hard for me because this was what my entire marriage was like. My ex's job was so consuming, there was no room for me. He was hardly ever home, we were never connecting, it was terrible. And I'd really like to believe my boyfriend that this is temporary, it's really hard and I don't know what to do. I can be supportive and understanding, but feel like I can't share with him (again) how sad and hurt I'm feeling. Or I can be true to what I'm feeling, but know that I'm adding more pressure and stress on him. He wants to go out to dinner on Friday night. Since we both have kids, it's not easy finding time together. This will be the first time I've been alone with him without kids in 2 weeks. I think he's going to act like none of this has affected us, but I don't feel that way. I don't want to make the night miserable, but we haven't really been connecting lately, and I just don't know what to do. Any advice??