this is my first post on the entertaining board. DH and I both love to entertain, however we seem to have made friends that are not that into gatherings, or we're doing something wrong.I've tried several times to get some of our couple friends together for a little dinner party. Over the summer our cookouts flopped and I tried a dinner party in October and was dissappointed by my friend's responses and hurt by their rude behavior.
Several times over the summer we tried to have some casual gatherings on our patio, burger, chips, and s'mores supplies by the fire. We always offered a small selection of beer and wine but told friends to feel free to BYOB if there was something specific they were in the mood for. invitations were generally sent via text or facebook as we usually tried to throw these together relatively last minute. I had no expectation that anyone would be free, usually several said maybe, a couple said sounds fun, and some I never heard from. more often than not it ended up being DH and I alone with the grill. In my mind, no big deal, invites were last minute, and I still got to sit on our patio with a fire going.
This fall we dicided to have a dinner party, I invted friends 4 weeks ahead of time, we invited 20 people knowing that since several are residents there was a good chance that some wouldn't be able to make it. I got a grand total of 3 RSVPs, and I hate hounding people about things, but cooking for 20 and cooking for 5 are very different things. eventually I got verbal RSVPs from 12 people who said they were planning to come. the day of the dinner party, after I've already prepped most of the food, 3 couples backed out. one was for a legitimate medical emergency, however the other two just decided to stay in. is it just me, or is that really rude?
DH and I ended up with so much extra food some of it went bad and I had to throw it out, not to mention that I was left feeling like I'm unimportant to my friends. Sholud I be approaching planning things differently? do I need to find a new social circle?
Me: 28 H: 30
TTC #1 January 2015
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