It's almost time for Christmas!! Yeah!!! My favorite time of year. My husband and I have been married for 2 years and together for 7.
What I am interested in seeking a response on is gifts. We have several ungrateful people on both sides of our family. My two sisters are highly ungrateful, as is my father (who is divorced from my mom). On hubbys' side, his 1/2 sister and family (husband and 3 kids) are extremely ungrateful. I have a few friends that are also ungrateful. I am not too concerned about the friends because that is simple enough to trim them off my list. It's the family that I am having a hard time with.
I keep a list of what we gave to each person/couple and what we received from them (if any thing) and how they responded to our gift(s). You might think this is a bit of an overkill but I do it because I don't know one year later how they reacted unless I mark it down. Let me tell you, I started this last year and I am glad I did because it really speaks to who these people are year round. I digress.
I would like to find out if you would cut them off the list completely or buy them something 'on a budget'. We are not 'budget' people but I find it better to spend our money where it counts instead of on ungrateful people who have no respect. That money could have gone to feed the poor in other words. You feel me? In my world, if you can't afford Christmas gifts no problem just say so. If you can't afford Christmas gifts for 5+ years but you spend on yourself throughout the year on things that you don't need then you are selfish and ungrateful. Is that being unrealistic?
We spend on ourselves throughout the year. We buy within our means and we are responsible. When it comes to Christmas I plan in Oct., hence the post, to spread it out over time instead of concentrating such efforts for all those people on just a few paychecks. Its smart and in the long run it is a very good budget friendly plan. Why can't others do the same instead of buying a $15 gift card to Wal-Mart and calling that a Christmas gift for a couple who just spent $200 on you!