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Lost my best friend

I unexpectedly had to put down my 12 year old german shepherd mix on Thursday. I got married a year ago and my dog stayed at my parents, I felt the move would be too hard on him from a suburban home with a large yard to an apartment, but I would go home to visit almost daily. I stopped home Thursday and he was laying in his pen in the garage, the garage smelled terrible (not totally uncommon as he occasionally has had accidents in his pen in there and it would need a few days to air out), he didn't get up which wasn't unusual because he has had stiffness in his back legs for a few years. I went inside and talked to my dad, my dog never made his way into the house. I said to my dad the garage smells did Bandit have an accident again, he said he wasn't sure and my mom was afraid that the smell was coming from Bandit himself. My dad and I went outside and tried to get him to move from the pen to the backyard and he wouldn't move. We opened the door and I tried to coax him out with a treat, still no luck. My dad and I pulled him out and my dad lifted him up (80lb dog), his back end looked all twisted and he couldn't stand for more than a few second. He had had an accident and had been laying it. My dad looked at me and said he thought it was time, since Bandit could no longer stand or walk. He tried to walk briefly and dragged his back end behind him. My mom said the night before all this she had heard him whining in the middle of the night but she was alone (my dad works some nights) and he was in the back yard and he eventually quieted down. I called the vet and told them what was going on and they said it was time and had me bring him in. He had a parathyroid tumor, had been diagnosed over a year ago and what was going on was related to the tumor. I just feel so terrible, like I killed him. The vet, my parents and husband said I made the right choice, and that things were only going to get worse. I just feel like I let him down, that there was something more I could have done. He just still seemed so alive too me, it all happened so fast. Just a few weeks ago we had gone on a half mile walk, I knew that was the last walk I would take him on since when we got back he couldn't get walk up the steps into the house. This was coming I know, but I am in so much pain over it. I held his head while he died and he looked right at me, it was so hard, I just feel like I should've tried harder to care for him until he passed on his own.

Re: Lost my best friend

  • I'm so sorry for your loss - sending lots if T&Ps to you and your family. Just know you gave your pup a wonderful, long life, and he knew how much you loved him.

    I know how hard the decision is, but know you made the right one. A couple weeks ago, we suddenly and unexpectedly had to put down one of our pugs on his 7th birthday (he collapsed while eating dinner one night, and he was then diagnosed with an untreatable tumor on his heart that was bleeding and causing his heart not to be able to beat regularly - no prior symptoms or health issues). It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I know he's not suffering any more. I'm sure your pup is running free beyond the Rainbow Bridge and is watching over you.
  • im so very sorry for your loss. you did the right thing.  Quite a few years ago now, we had to put down one of our childhood dogs and it was VERY unexpected. We literally found him laying in the garage just after having a day playing with everyone in the yard. His spleen had ruptured, the vet had told us its very common and sudden in the type of dog and age that he was. He wound up being riddled with cancer.  Just know that your pup is no longer suffering and he had a wonderful life with you. many hugs and t&ps
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to make that decision and you absolutely did the right thing. When it gets to the point where their quality of life is gone, it's best to just let them go so they no longer suffer.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. That decision is the hardest one for any loving pet owner to make. Bandit crossed the bridge knowing you loved him.
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    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
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  • I am so very sorry for your loss!! Try to take comfort in knowing he had a long and happy life and I am sure he knew you really loved him. T&Ps to you and your family!
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  These posts always make me tear up.  Just know that you did right by him.  I know it's hard to think about, but you were able to be with him and comfort him in his final moments - which is something really special.

    Me: 32 | He: 35
    TTC since Sept 2011
    DX: Unexplained
    1st round of clomid: Jan 2013 BFP - M/C 8 weeks
    surprise BFP Apr 2013 - M/C 9 weeks
    IUI #1 clomid Jul 2013 = BFN
    IUI #2 clomid Aug 2013 = BFN
    IUI #3 injects Oct 2013 = BFN
    IUI #4 injects Dec 2013 = BFN
    IVF #1 March 2014 - 12R/12F, one perfect day 5 blast transferred
    BFP!! Beta#1 = 431 Beta#2 = 914 Beta#3 = 2207 HB = 166!!

  • Thank you everyone for your support. It is reassuring to hear of others making similar decisions, it is helping me feel better about the choice I made.
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